对方对你有感觉，该怎么判断 ……

by Readers' contributions · 2020年4月23日

　　两个人相处，总是会想要知道对方是不是对自己有感觉，以下内容就是帮你解决这样的问题，如果你想要知道她是否对你有感觉，那么不妨就请接着看吧，相信会对你有所帮助!!

　　你看上了某人，但是你怎么知道他(她)什么时候能够对你感兴趣呢?

　　Reciprocated chemistry is the answer. This is what you feel when you are sitting beside them or even just gazing at them across the room. Sometime the pheromones are so powerful that it actually pulls you towards them like a magnetic force. There is a magic in the air and it is an unmistakable euphoric feeling. How often does it happen?

　　答案是两情相悦(直译：往来式性化学反应)，那就是当你坐在他们旁边或者仅仅是在房间里隔着一定距离盯着他们时你感受到了什么。有时候外激素非常强大，会像磁力一样把你拉过去。大气中有一种神奇的物质，它会使你有一种显而易见的令人愉悦的感觉。它会经常发生吗?

　　Not as often as one would think.

　　事实上，它并不会如您所想的那样经常发生。

　　What are the signs?

　　性化学反应到底有什么外在表现呢?(让我们来看看吧!)

　　• There is an overwhelming urge to be close and touch them. It is like an electric current that is pulling you into them. It is not always at the right moment, it can be with someone who is out of bounds, but it is an undeniable feeling hard to ignore!

　　●有一种极其强烈的愿望去靠近并触碰他们，就像有一股电流把你拉向他们。它并不总是来得恰到好处，有时会让人出轨;但不管怎样，它是一种无法忽视、无法否认的感觉。

　　• Nervousness that you are not used to feeling

　　●你此前较少遇到的焦虑感

　　• An arousal in the loin area

　　●下体的萌动

　　• An amazing urge to kiss them right there on the spot.

　　●此时此刻，令人惊异的想吻他们的冲动

　　• That you are willing to sleep with them as quickly as possible despite your strong morals

　　●尽管你有强烈的道德观念约束自己，你还是渴望与他们越早上床越好

　　• Their scent is overly alluring & draws you closer

　　●他们的体味过度地诱惑你并拉你靠近

　　• You are drawn into their eyes & have trouble focusing on what they are saying

　　●你吸引了他们的眼球，但是你无法判断他们在说什么

　　If you are both single this great but if not, it can be the catalyst in many relationship problems! Due to the magnitude of the electrical current some people tend to step over their boundaries. Acting first & dealing with the repercussions later.

　　如果你们都是单身的话，那就太棒了;但是如果不是呢，(你要知道，)性化学反应又是处理许多两性关系问题的催化剂!由于性电流的吸引力，一些人会尝试着越界行为，先做后谈。

　　There are different levels of chemistry. Sometimes it is slow and drawn out and becomes more powerful over time but more often it is an instant feeling that blindsides your existence. Chemistry is something that you feel uncontrollably and is just one step further in the passion department but is more powerful than lust. When you can feel someone‘s energy matching yours & the sexual endorphins are released, nothing is as powerful! (Angelina Jolie & Brad Pitt are probably a great example of this.) Brad Pitt And Angelina Jolie To Wed Later This Summer

　　性化学反应有不同的级别。有时很缓慢、时间拉得很长但经过一段时间却又变得很有力量，而一般情况下性化学反应都是忘记自己身处何处的瞬间感受。你感觉性化学反应是无法控制的;它是激情的一个小步骤但比性欲来得更有力。当你感受到某个人的能量和你匹配时，性荷尔蒙会同时释放，此时你的感觉真是无敌了!(是不是有点安吉丽娜·朱莉 (Angelina Jolie) 布拉德·皮特 (Brad Pitt)在一起的感觉呢?)(译注：大明星夫妻啦)

　　Is chemistry doomed from the start? Will it fizzle and die just as fast as the flame was lit?

　　性化学反应只能从头开始吗?它只是像火苗一样瞬间闪亮然后就销声匿迹吗?

　　Does age make a difference in how a person looks at chemistry? As a person matures, so does their awareness. They may become more selective or intuitive due to some of the mistakes they have made in the past and now when they feel it, they know it! (Some people can have a sexual relationship without the love & passion which is a “friend’s with benefits” rapport.)

　　人们对待性化学反应的态度有年龄差异吗?是的!一个人成熟时，他的意识也会随着成熟。由于年轻时曾经犯过一些错误，他现在会精心选择或者凭直觉。现在他只要感觉到，他就会知道结果了。(一些人可以在没有爱情没有激情的的情况下保持性关系，也就是所谓的“友情和利益”的结合体吧。)

　　In your younger years you are sexually peaking and everything is experimental and not so much about chemistry. Everyone looks good and feels good for a while until you start to differentiate with new emotions. In high school most crushes are experiments with an attraction. No one is thinking about a future yet.

　　在你的青年时期，你的性欲处于巅峰状态，你做任何事都可以是试验性的，不会过多的关注性化学反应。在你开始对一段新的情感区别对待之前，在你看来，每个人看起来都很好，感觉也都不错。高中时，大部分迷恋都是缘于对吸引力的探索，没有人会考虑未来会怎么样。

　　How do you keep chemistry from fading like lust does?

　　怎样才能让性化学反应不像性欲那样消退呢?

　　Ask your partner what the word “chemistry” means to them? Keep that alive and work with it continuously. Many couples let it fade by allowing other daily forces to replace passion. Nurturing each other first should be a priority. Think back to when you first became a couple, everything else in your life took second place. Keeping the chemistry alive will keep your relationship alive!

　　与你的伴侣探讨何为性化学反应?让它保持活力并一直培育它。许多夫妻因为激情让位给了日常的生活压力而使性化学反应弱化，夫妻应当把培养双方的性化学反应放到优先的位置。回想你们刚成为夫妻时，生活的一切都是那么的不值一提(，唯有爱情最灿烂)。性化学反应日久弥新是夫妻关系保持新鲜的源泉!

　　Many parents today think it is selfish to get a babysitter and have a date night. Many older parents fall into this trap because they have waited so long to have a family & now make it all about the children. This is a big mistake. Is it better for the kids to come from a porced family because the couple who made the kids forgot how to love each other?

　　许多父母都认为给孩子请个临时保姆，晚上两人出去浪漫一把是自私的行为。事实上，许多年长的父母们就落入这种情感的怪圈，因为他们经过长久的等待终于有了一个家，但是最终一切都成了围着孩子转(，却无法维持夫妻感情)。这是一个大大的错误!难道因为夫妻双方只顾着生儿养女，却忽视了夫妻的感情培养，让你的孩子生活在离异家庭更好吗?

　　The key to keeping the chemistry alive over the years is exactly that, “keeping it alive”:

　　保持性化学反应活力的诀窍正是“保持活力”(废话)

　　• Put notes or something sexy in their briefcase or lunch bag

　　•在他(她)的公文包和午餐袋里放张暧昧的字条或小物件

　　• Leave sexy message on their hotel voice mail when they are traveling.

　　•在他(她)出差时，给他(她)的宾馆电话留性感的语音留言

　　• Leave a note under their pillow or on the counter when you are not with each other.

　　•有事不在一起时，在枕头下或床头柜上留张纸条

　　• Small gifts that remind you of them.

　　•记录二人美好生活的小礼物

　　• Send an sexy E-mail or text to them even if you live together

　　•即便二人都没有外出也时常发发调情的邮件或短信

　　• Say something sweet every day. It goes a long way

　　•每天都说说甜言蜜语。这一招可是长期有效的

　　• Listen to what they would like to do and surprise them with making it happen.

　　•注意倾听对方最想做什么，然后悄悄准备好，来个突然的惊喜

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　　• Compliment their achievements no matter how small.

　　•一定要恭维他(她)，哪怕只是小小的成功

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　　There are four types of chemistry: Physical, Mental, Emotional and Spiritual. How great would it be to have all four!

　　性化学反应一共有四种：身体上的，精神上的，情感上的和心灵上的。如果四种你都占了就太棒了!

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　　Some situations have a few barriers and may need constant nurturing to be kept alive. If they live out of town you have to be creative on a daily basis to keep the chemistry alive. If they have children from another relationship, own their own business or have huge commitments within their career, this can play a part in destroying even the most overpowering chemistry. Feeling secure is very important & communication is the key to keeping the passion alive in any relationship.

　　在某些情形下，还是会出现一些障碍，这时候就需要你不断地呵护它，让性化学反应保持活力。如果你的配偶没和你一起住在城里，你就要每天做些富有想象力的事拉近二人的感情;如果对方有带过来的孩子、有自己的一摊事业或者他(她)的工作责任很大等情形是，你就要注意力，这些都是毁灭夫妻感情的潜在的导火索，如果处理不好的话，即便最强烈的性化学反应恐怕都无能为力了。感觉有把握很重要，而在任何关系的处理上，沟通都是最关键的因素。